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Because I was an RN who worked with new moms and helped them breastfeed I felt like I was supposed to know what I was doing the first time I breastfed. Which was silly when you think about it. I needed tips on breastfeeding for beginners just like any other new mom.

Caucasian newborn baby laying on a white blanket

How in the heck would I know how to do something I had never done before? 

You may feel just as clueless when you begin your breastfeeding journey.

Although I had helped countless moms with their first breastfeeding session it was like I forgot everything I knew.

Fortunately, my baby eventually nursed. That first successful feeding was probably more luck than anything else.

After you’ve read all these beginner breastfeeding tips you won’t have to count on luck.

It is best if breastfed babies eat sooner rather than later. Early contact and early initiation of breastfeeding are correlated with moms breastfeeding for longer. (Source 1), (Source 2).

We know so much more now about how to help babies breastfeed. We know how important those early hours, days, and weeks are. Nurses are better educated and lactation consultants are readily available.

There is an abundance of information out there so you can educate yourself.

My goal is to pull together the most important parts of all that information for you to read here in these beginner breastfeeding tips.

Caucasian mother holding her just born baby at her breast


I’ve been a lactation consultant a few years shy of forever. Okay, that’s an exaggeration. It’s been 25 years. That has provided me with the benefit of seeing the before and after.

Over the years we changed how we helped moms who were getting started with breastfeeding. Some of those changes really seemed to make a big difference.

I don’t want to say there’s a right or wrong way to do things. But there are things you can do that will help get breastfeeding off to a good start. There are also things a beginner breastfeeder can do to make it harder.

These are the breastfeeding tips that I have seen make a difference. These are the answers to the most common questions moms ask when they are beginning to breastfeed.

This is the information that will help you and your newborn baby get off to a good start.

Moms who really struggle in the first few weeks are more likely to give up breastfeeding.

Over the years I have seen these breastfeeding tips make a huge difference. I want to share with you what I have learned that will help you avoid struggling those crucial first few weeks.

Breastfeeding is like every other part of parenting, it is always changing. That means the answers to these questions will change after a period of time. If you get off to a good start though, you have a much better chance of reaching your breastfeeding goals.


  • Do skin to skin
  • Breastfeed early and often.
  • Let your baby breastfeed as soon as he is showing that he is interested. You’ll know he is interested when he shows you feeding cues.
infographic of NEWBORN HUNGER CUES

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This is a very common question new moms beginning to breastfeed have.

Your milk should come in between 48-72 hours after your baby is born.

When your baby is born you will have colostrum.

Colostrum is early milk but it has a special name. Don’t ask me why. I think it having a special name confuses people. It makes moms anxious because they think it’s not “real milk.” 

Colostrum is freaking awesome.

  • Colostrum is made in really small amounts.
    • This is a good thing because your baby’s tummy is really small.
  • It is packed with antibodies.
  • The micronutrients (carbs, proteins and fats) are in proportions to what is easiest for a brand new baby to digest.
  • It has a laxative effect to help pass the meconium.

Within a few days you will start making mature milk. This is when your milk “comes in.”  This is a process that can take up to a day or two.


Often. Like, whenever your baby is showing feeding cues. The more your baby breastfeeds, the faster your milk will come in.

  • By the second day your baby needs to eat at least eight times in a 24-hour period.
  • Some babies will eat more often and that is fine.
  • In the first 6-8 weeks most babies will not gain enough weight if they eat less than 8 times/24 hours.


The whole “never wake a sleeping baby” is not true. You should wake your baby to breastfeed if you need to. You need to if your baby is eating less than 8 times every 24-hours.

Your baby doesn’t need to eat every 3-hours. But don’t let him go longer than one 4-hour stretch without eating for each 24 hours.

As long as it’s 8 times each 24 hours, it’s all good.

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Your baby should breastfeed for as long as she needs. This will vary from baby to baby.

Watch her cues. If she breastfeeds for ten minutes on one side, then looks milk drunk and falls asleep she may have had enough. I always encourage new moms to offer the second side in the early days. But it is okay if your baby doesn’t want it.

If she comes off and is still showing feeding cues, you definitely want to give her the second side.

Let her finish on the first side before offering the second side. She does not have to spend the same number of minutes on both sides.

Signs that she’s finished:

  • She comes off the breast
  • You are not hearing swallowing anymore.

Count diapers in the early days.  The number of diapers a baby is expected to have will change every day for the first several days. After your milk comes in it is an encouraging sign that a baby is getting enough from breastfeeding if they have 6-8 wet diapers and 4-5 stools in moderate quantity.

Lots of swallowing and lots of diapers are encouraging signs that your baby is feeding for “long enough.”

The bottom line is weight gain.

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There are the four most common breastfeeding positions. 

Cross-cradle Hold

caucasian mother breastfeeding her baby using the cross cradle hold

Cradle Hold

caucasian newborn infant breastfeeding in the cradle hold

Football Hold

caucasian mother breastfeeding with the football hold

Side-lying Hold

caucasian mother breastfeeding in the side-lying position
Mother uses side-lying position as a breastfeeding latch trick for a deeper latch


  • His tummy is turned in to you.
    • Tummy to tummy for cradle, cross-cradle, and side-lying,
    • His tummy to your side for football.
  • Position your baby’s nose across from your nipple
  • Touch his upper lip. Just touch it. You don’t need to move it back and forth. That can make it a moving target for your baby.
  • Touch it and wait for him to open wide.
  • Then pull him in quick and close.
  • His lips should be flanged out.
  • His chin should be pressed into your breast.
  • His nose should not be touching your breast.

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caucasian baby breastfeeding in cradle hold


The two most common things that cause pain in the first couple of weeks are sore nipples and breast engorgement.

If you can prevent sore nipples it will be easier than treating them.


You should be able to prevent sore nipples with good positioning and good latch technique.

But let’s get real, nipple pain is common.

  •  Any pain should be brief.
  • It usually happens when she first latches on.
  • It should pass within the first 20 sucks.
  • It usually peaks within the first four days.
  • It should be much better at the end of the first week.
  • It should be completely resolved by the end of the second week.

Any kind of trauma like cracks, bleeding or bruises are never normal.

If you have trauma or the pain does not improve the way I described contact a lactation consultant.

If a baby has a weird suck or they are tongue-tied the pain will be more intense. In those situations, the pain usually not go away within those first 20 sucks. Get help from a lactation consultant.

Gel pads and breast shells can help sore nipples.

My favorite gel pads are the Ameda Comfort Gels.

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  • Feed frequently
  • Pump if needed
    • It’s needed if you are still uncomfortably full after a feeding.
  • Use ice packs to decrease swelling.
    • Apply for up to 20 minutes, never longer.
    • Bags of frozen peas make great ice packs.
    • Avoid heat on engorged breasts.

Cabbage can help decrease swelling. I know, weird, right? Whatever works though.

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This isn’t everything you need to know about breastfeeding. That’s why I have a whole blog about it! 

But these breastfeeding tips for beginners should help you get off to a good start!

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